hello good people, i know it has been sometime since I last bloggied on here or multiply or myspace or anywhere for that matter...hmmm on a few side notes though
1 - When the moon is high and the sun is rising, what is the moon doing, is it setting or going down?
2 - Why would an airline book a party of special needs adults and place them in the EXIT ROW? yeah it was a WTF moment
3 - Is it quite possible to find attraction in something or someone you loathe? (no not me so dont get it twisted)
I have continued to grow stronger in so many ways, and yet i still see others around me that continue to languish in thier hesitance to make LIFE CHOICES. This bloggy is dedicated to to types of people; those that cannot make a choice and the others who compromise/settle. There will be knashing of teeth and wringing of hands on this so read it and then understand where you fit in...first Choices:
Some persons are very decisive when it comes to avoiding decisions. ~Brendan Francis
Life is the sum of all your choices. ~Albert Camus
The hardest thing to learn in life is which bridge to cross and which to burn. ~David Russell
Ever make a choice simply because you had to? I mean it was basically do or die, sink or swim..how did it get to that? were there other choices before you on the way that could have alleviated the need to do such? often times we overlook the many small decisions that could have saved us from making a moral compromise (we will get to that). The ability to make such small decisions should not be dismissed. they form the foundation and backbone that eventually allows you to live with the choices you make in life without regret. I have watched and observed many around me, continue to make decisions based not on what they know but what they are feeling at the time. This often leads to more erractic decison making and some embarassment donw the road. everyone has to live with their own decisions eventually, yet not many of us are willing to OWN them as ours at the time. We put excuses here and there to justify why we did certian things when the fact of the matter is we just never thought it through. We never paid attention to how the LITTLE DECISIONS played key roles in the grad scheme of things:
1 - I will not pay this bill now and use the money for this instead
2 - If i pay them within the next week it wont be 60 days past due and then I can float it another month until I can manage the payment.
would a better decision had been to talk to the bill collectors up front? That might have gained you the time you needed?
1 - Well if i dont tell her/him about my co worker i wont have to lie about it later, its perfectly harmless.
2 - ill just say we had to work late instead of saying we went to happy hour together if he asks..
if it is truly harmless why not just tell your partner about them upfront? These decisions (actually deceit) leave you wide open to having to make major choices down the road. You have compromised yourself....
Compromise makes a good
umbrella, but a poor roof.
James Russell Lowell
ya know i tried to find some positive quotes on compromise, but I just could not find many that were really positive. I wonder why that is?
It's rather astonishing to see just how few quotations are out there that give a positive slant to the concept of compromise. Most of the words we've found about compromise treat the idea as almost evil, as if we lose our humanity as soon as we even consider compromise. If we compromise, people say, we're settling for less than we deserve or we're showing weakness by not being willing to push to get exactly what we want.
This seems to be a dangerous trend in the minds of our young people, who are being taught to be intolerant of anything except what they want. We read story after story about teens who feel they deserve the very best of everything, and who are unwilling to compromise and accept anything but exactly what they want. They seem to be taking lessons from people like Elbert Hubbard, who said, "It is the weak man who urges compromise--never the strong man."
What a crock. Some of the strongest people in the world have been masters of compromise. Mother Teresa, Mikhael Gorbachev and Nelson Mandela come to mind.
Compromise shows a willingness to try to understand that there are other options available other than the ones we've originally considered. It's a willingness to consider the validity of other people's perspectives, to consider the possibility that someone else may have a better idea than we do. If I "back down" and agree to see the movie my wife wants to see instead of the one I originally wanted to see, what have I lost? Absolutely nothing, and my willingness to compromise has more than likely helped our relationship. It's certainly helped me to feel more peace of mind.
There are some things that we never should compromise, especially our ethics and our values. But such a compromise means that we're making a decision to do something that directly contradicts what we know to be ethical. Compromise can be one of the most powerful tools available to us in our quest to lead a full life, as long as we can learn to recognize when compromise is appropriate. Compromise means that our happiness isn't tied to a certain outcome or course of action, which frees us up to be ourselves, and to let others in our lives be themselves, too.
your thoughts on a nice easter sunday
jj
