Kindness in words
creates confidence.
Kindness in thinking
creates profoundness.
Kindness in giving
creates love.
~Lao-Tzu (6th Century B.C.)~
welcome to the bloggy, lets get it
i hope you all have enjoyed my little excursion down the road of REAL. The battle is ever changing and ever present in our day-to-day. The main reason I wanted to expose it's REAL REALITY, is that so many use this vague term so specifically in regards to what and how they want to be treated and or approached. I submit to most of you, that being or keeping it real, has never ever truly been anything more than being honest with ONES SELF!
Honesty in how you treat and respect own self says a whole lot about YOU!
Your preferences do as well--yet far to many of us get twisted around the PREFERENCES that we lose sight of the person within. Age, Ethnicity, height, weight, yes yes and even gender, all play key roles in how we decide on whom we want to invest time and energy in. To me and I can only speak to me and my own experiences, choosing to date only black men or white women, or tall men and big women, speaks to some hidden issues within that have yet to be reconciled. Maybe white men dont talk to you, maybe black women are not interested, maybe available well educated black men are not in your local area so you date those types of men that are. The serious REALITY is that it should never matter the hue or the language a person is or speaks, what matters is the type of person they ARE.
KEEPING it real in dating preferences, means you pretty much did not wake up one morning and say "Hmmm i think im gonna start dating brothers" lol..no it means that because of where you are in life, and the circles you travel and network in, that might be the best option for you.. thats what keeping it real is in this regard. We all are attracted to what attracts us, however, some of us flowed to that attraction earlier than others. Some of us learned the nasty REALITIES of LOVE, in which you can love whom you want to, but know that you can also run the risk of alienating the ones who love you already!! The ACT of LOVE is a big RISK. You risk your heart, you open your soul up to all kinds of vulnerable situations.. it is really both Power and Weakness at the same time.
Some have the strength to hold on when others scorn and ridicule, and others decide early that they just are not willing to let go of all they have in order to be with the one they love. It is a horrible and still very promising dilemma. Yet one has to KEEP IT REAL in regards to how their own preferences are met. For too long we have lived and survived on what WE THOUGHT we wanted and PREFERRED... yet when you break it all down what is it that we truly want?
Someone that cares about us, someone that feels our pain and joy, someone who shares our values, our concerns, someone that is willing to go to battle with and for us--and come out with the victory come what may, someone to hold and know that they are holding you right the hell back, someone that when you look in their eyes you see your reflection and they see theirs..someone who has your front, back, side until the wheels fall off!!
Keeping it REAL in your PREFERENCES means that you just want the best HUMAN BEING ... thats it.. it matters not what color, what height, what weight, what language, what part of the country..nope.. it does matter that their AZZ IS WORKING THOUGH..i mean seriously lets KEEP IT REAL!
JUSTIFIABLY JAMES
